If you enjoy a day at the race track but your wife, girlfriend, husband, boyfriend or significant other doesn’t want you to go to the track, there are some things you should consider. First of all, just how badly do you want to go to the horse races? If it is just a slight desire, then why rock the boat? There are many other things you can do for recreation that might not be a problem.
On the other hand, if you really want to go to the races or bet on horse races and someone doesn’t want you to do that, it is time to think about the reasons and answer some questions. One of the first questions that comes to mind is, why doesn’t he or she want you to bet on the horses? It is a fair question, and knowing the answer may help you to decide whether or not to honor his or her wishes.
If you have a gambling problem and you are obsessed with betting and losing a lot of money, that person may only be concerned for your welfare. It is hard to admit you have a problem or addiction, but trust me, there are millions of people who do have a gambling problem and who really should get into a twelve step program. On the other hand, does he or she think you have a problem, but you don’t? Before things get out of hand and you lose that person in your life, it might be a good idea to sit down and discuss it and use one of those lists that Gambling Anonymous supplies to tell whether or not you have a problem. The truth can hurt, but it can also set you free.
If it isn’t a matter of a gambling problem, then what is the reason? Is he or she jealous because you have something that you enjoy that doesn’t involve him or her? You have a right to some free time and some fun, don’t you? Maybe you could explain that having fun and letting off a little steam will improve your relationship because you will be more relaxed.
Maybe that person feels left out. Did you ever think of asking him or her to accompany you to the races or to help you pick a few winners? Don’t assume that he or she will say no and isn’t interested. Even though that significant person in your life may have said derisive things about betting on horses or going to the races, he or she may change that tune when he or she picks a few winners and has a few laughs with you at the track.
The important thing is to realize that though the races are a lot of fun, the people in our lives are the most important consideration and give our lives the most meaning. Asking the reasons why he or she doesn’t want you to go to the horse races is a good way to show that you care. Discussing it and really listening is an excellent way to build a better relationship.
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